Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Keys to Success

What is the difference between you and the most successful person you know? Are they blessed with some extraordinary talent that you couldn’t possess if you tried? Do they have more physical stamina, better health, more charisma, charm, beauty etc? I think not.
Every single characteristic that makes up part of the ingredients for success can be found in almost anybody, maybe not all the ingredients but at least some of them. Yet as many people possess these ingredients, many of them are still unsuccessful, why?
Because there is actually a difference between successful people and unsuccessful people, and it’s not luck, it’s not beauty, it’s not charisma. It’s something that most of them have no idea that they even have.
So before you start beating yourself up for not being more like Bill Gates or the charming new recruit in your office getting all the accolades, read the following:
  1. Help other people succeed: Success breeds success, the more of it you give, the more of it you get. Be sincerely interested in other people ideas and opinions, listen to problems and take your time to think about solutions to proffer. 100% of successful businesses result from one person providing a solution to a problem. Teach someone things you have learned. You would be surprised by how much you learn and how much more ideas and successes will come to you.
  2. Don’t let your ideas stagnate:  When you get an idea do not think too much about it. Do not overanalyze until it starts to seem like a bad idea. Act on it! Immediately! That’s what successful people do. They test their ideas as soon as they can. If it fails it’s easy to see what went wrong and how it can be fixed and if it works well, good for you!
  3. Build on your strengths: Be more of what you are; don’t try to be what you are not. Do not spend too much time trying to improve yourself. That way you stay focused on your weaknesses. Instead build on your strengths and forget whatever weaknesses you think you have.  In time you will find that your strengths have either grown enough to cover those weaknesses, or you have found a way to get around them.
  4. Accept your Mistakes: If you refuse to accept when you have made a mistake, you will never learn from it. Don’t ever let your ego make you stubborn, uncompromising and blind to your faults.
  5. Go the Extra Mile: All successful people do this, they always go the extra mile, and this is the most important rule to success. Don’t ever say I’ve done as much as I can, or I’ve done my best. ‘I’ve done my best’ as some people say is only as excuse for failure. Don’t do your best. Do what is required to get it done! That may be the biggest difference between who are today and who you will be tomorrow.

Monday, November 29, 2010

If Only They Could See

Yesterday was Harvest at my church. It was fun. I had fun. At first I and my friend just walked around ate a lot, drank a lot and chatted. That's what most people do at Harvests. Then we walked towards the Bazaar area, and out of the corner of my eye I noticed a couple of children wearing cloth made of the same material with a Reverend Sister sitting in their midst.

I always make jokes in my head about people, so I had already started on the joke to make when I noticed that some of them were staring into space with blank eyes. The rest had those tightly closed eyes that could only mean that they were blind.

I felt so horrible, here I was with my petty issues, making petty jokes at other people's expense, laughing my head off at every opportunity, complaining about stuff, and here were these children who would never see the sun rise, or choose pink over ox-blood, or ever see anything, and they were quietly eating their food and drinking their drinks.. I felt so horrible I started to cry.

Luckily my friend had wandered off, so I just backed into a corner and cried my eyes out.

I hope they had fun, I hope it was a great day for them. but it would be really great if only they could by some miracle, just see.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Being In Love With My Ass Ain’t Cheap….. Thanks CeeLo

I see you driving 'round town
With the girl I love and I'm like,
Fuck you!
Oo, oo, ooo
I guess the change in my pocket
Wasn't enough I'm like,
Fuck you!
And fuck her too!
I said, if I was richer, I'd still be with ya
Ha, now ain't that some shit? (ain't that some shit?)
And although there's pain in my chest
I still wish you the best with a...
Fuck you!
Oo, oo, ooo

Just fell in love with this song from Ceelo.. I have it on repeat ..Can't stop singing it. I love the part where he says..

"I pity the fool who falls in love with you…
She's a gold digger..
Just thought you should know nigger"


Being in love with my ass ain't cheap either.. tho am no gold digger… lol

Saw some fat chicks jogging in Festac on my way to work. Fat chicks jogging always crack me up. I don't know why. Maybe it's because they look sad… not sad in the way that makes you empathize…. Just sad in a way that makes you want to laugh.

PS I know I'll never be a fat chick jogging….;)

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

The Only Exception

Currently loving “The only Exception” by Paramore. I loved it when I first heard it a couple of weeks ago and then I forgot about it a little bit but then I saw Rachel (Lea Michele) sing it on Glee... wow!
You, are, the only exception and I’m on my way to believing in love............sweet.

On my way to work today there was a guy on the BRT bus with a cast around his hand and one of his fingers . On the cast people had written a lot of stuff like “Be Careful”, “Get Better Quickly’”, Get well soon”, “Take care we love you” and other such stuff. It was sweet. I was going to ask him if I could take a picture of the cast but I couldn’t work up the courage. Not that I’m not usually bold, in fact I am very bold. I just don’t know why I shrank today. Maybe I didn’t want to draw the attention of other people on the bus or something.

I saw Megamind about two days ago. I fell in love with Megamind despite his big blue head and badguyness. There is something about a guy sincerely in love that gets me everytime. I think it’s because guys in love are so rare. I know there are guys’ everywhere being crazy about this girl or that girl but a guy sincerely painfully, happily and truly in love is very rare indeed. It is truly a sight to behold. It’s a sight to melt the most hardened of hearts.

Girls in love don’t inspire the same sort of feelings in me no matter how sincerely in love they are. Maybe that’s because girls are always in love. It’s become too common.

I have a date on Saturday but my PM (Project Manager) wants me to come to work. Spending Saturday with a middle-aged white man poring over drawings is not my idea of fun at all.

Sometimes I wish people were like layers on an AutoCAD drawing that I can turn on and off whenever I like. Sometimes I’d just turn all the other layers off and be the only person in the world. Then I’d turn on the people I miss. And maybe the rest of the world when I feel like it. That would be great.

I have been in love with someone for a while now, as usual it’s someone who’s not really in my life. Well now I have decided to fall out of love, that’s usually the hard part, coming to that decision because no matter how dysfunctional my being in love usually is. It’s a feeling I enjoy. Oh well.

I don’t know what to say to the people who keep advising me to commit to someone. I have a problem with all kinds of commitment. Before I see a movie I want to know it won’t disappoint me. I can’t commit two hours of my time to something that would be terrible. It’s the same with books and people. Giving my time to someone is an idea that puts me off. I want to be able to always make a snap decision and follow it. I want to be able to spend time with someone I like when I feel like it and switch off with no questions asked when I’m bored... why is that so bad?

About a year ago I was with this guy who used to be so all over me ugh -I still don’t like physical contact with people, no matter how casual, except when I like it – (That makes no sense right?). Anyway I knew he wanted a serious relationship. So I started to imagine me, married to him, in his flat, living with him, having that together life and I actually started to feel nauseous. That’s the way the thought of commitment makes me feel. Trapped and suffocating. Maybe that's why I only ever go out with people who will soon undergo a transition that will take them far away from me.

Speaking of relationships, my first boyfriend had this phone with a voice recorder then, I used to have a lot of fun recording my voice on that phone. I found out later that he used to listen to my voice whenever I wasn’t around. That still makes me smile even though it was years ago..... I like being loved.

Oh and here are the lyrics to the song I was talking about.

The Only Exception - Paramore

When I was younger
I saw my daddy cry
And curse at the wind
He broke his own heart
And I watched
As he tried to reassemble it

And my momma swore that
She would never let herself forget
And that was the day that I promised
I'd never sing of love
If it does not exist

But darling,
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception

Maybe I know, somewhere
Deep in my soul
That love never lasts
And we've got to find other ways
To make it alone
Keep a straight face

And I've always lived like this
Keeping a comfortable, distance
And up until now
I had sworn to myself that I'm
Content with loneliness

Because none of it was ever worth the risk

Well, You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception

I've got a tight grip on reality
But I can't
Let go of what's in front of me here
I know you're leaving
In the morning, when you wake up
Leave me with some kind of proof it's not a dream


You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception
You, are, the only exception

And I'm on my way to believing
Oh, And I'm on my way to believing

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Another Day in My Life.

Just read that Tony Parker and Eva Longoria are getting divorced. Apparently Tony has been Sexting i.e sending sexual test messages to a mutual friend of the couple for months. I'm just thinking... Whats the point of being beautiful if Tony Parker is still going to cheat on Eva Longoria.

Never save a guy's number until he has called you a couple of times. That way you'll never have the added embarrassment of having saved his number even though he never called.
Never remember a guy's name until after he has called you a couple of times. He doesn't deserve a place in your memory until then.

There is just something not right about a girl spending her money on a guy. A girl should spend her money on herself, some of it on the kids (if there are any) and depending on if there is a ring on her finger or not.. tasteful presents for him.. PS they should never be as expensive as the presents he gets you. Before there is a ring on your finger (and even after) don't pay for dates.. don't go dutch even.. don't reach for your purse.. LET HIM PAY.

A guy who lets a lady pay has no real desire to impress her. A lady who pays a guys way is always resentful of him. This resentment finally turns to bitterness when she finds out he has been spending his peanuts impressing some other girl.

I can't stand a guy who complains all the time. if I ask 'How was your weekend' Just say fine even if it was not. I don't want to hear how you didn't get a blink of sleep because you had food poisoning because your girlfriend cooked Sharwarma because she cant cook spaghetti...

PS I saw some really nice Burberry shirts at Wranglers in Shoprite Yesterday. At N3800 they are much cheaper than a Ralph Lauren Polo but as nice if you ask me. If anybody is going to buy sha buy me a nice one.. Orange, Beige... whatever.

Friday, November 5, 2010

My Latest Realisation

I have found that I am very much in tune with the feelings and emotions of fictional characters I encounter in books and movies. I can relate so much to how they feel that I almost feel as much as them in that moment when I’m reading the book or watching the movie.

Today I was reading Bridget Jones’s diary. I read one part where there is a very emotional moment between Bridget Jones and Mark Darcy. I felt it so much, like I was there, like it was me and for about five minutes I was lost in this bubble of feeling. This made me think and ask myself, why do I feel so much for these people and situations which are not real and find it impossible to conjure up similar feelings in real life.

The truth is, these sort of moments, these emotional, romantic, tortuous moments. They never happen to me. Ridiculous moments, wildly funny moments, tense, angry, tearful moments yes, but romantic, emotional etc never.

Sometimes in retrospect I might think of an event and think maybe that qualifies, maybe at such and such moment I was really in an emotional situation, maybe this is what I was feeling and maybe he felt such and such emotions, but this is always in retrospect. I have never felt that sort of intense emotion in the present. I have never looked into someone’s eyes and been overcome by emotion (okay maybe once... I saw this guy I had a crush all dressed up and walking towards me and I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach).

Anyway today I started to think that maybe the reason why I feel so much for fictional characters is because I subconsciously channel my real feelings into fictional situations so I don’t have to deal with them. Real feelings very often end in hurt feelings. But in fiction, no matter what kind of book or movie it is, the good guys always win and the good people always end up together.

Anyway I have decided to be more in tune with my feelings. I have no idea how to achieve this especially since I have been saying this for about a year now. This is just one more element of my general “commitment phobia”
Still trying to deal with it though.

A Little Way to Improve Your Life

Have you ever thought about what you would do if money were no object?

I don’t mean the first things that come to your mind, the endless shopping sprees, the gadgets you really don’t need, the mansion, cars etc. I mean what you would do with your life if you knew you would never lack the money to fulfil all your needs.

Let’s say that today, everything changed and money suddenly became of no importance. What would you do?

Would you get rid of your job first, without a seconds thought? Probably. The fact that this would be the first thing that many people would do is a testimony to how few of us actually like our jobs.

What would you then do with your time? Would you spend more time with your family? Go out more? Travel? Spend time with your friends? Write a book? Start a blog? Go back to school? Start a website? Create a software?

Make a list of the things you would do with your time if it truly were your own.

These things are the things your heart really desires.

Now take that list and use it as a guide. Try as much as you can to arrange your time in such a way that you can do at least a few of those things.

This is just a little way to improve your life and well being.